Warning: Missing argument 2 for wpdb::prepare(), called in /data/26/2/12/123/2501449/user/2739711/htdocs/wp-content/themes/limon/functions/includes/po.php on line 125 and defined in /data/26/2/12/123/2501449/user/2739711/htdocs/wp-includes/wp-db.php on line 1295

Warning: Missing argument 2 for wpdb::prepare(), called in /data/26/2/12/123/2501449/user/2739711/htdocs/wp-content/themes/limon/functions/includes/po.php on line 201 and defined in /data/26/2/12/123/2501449/user/2739711/htdocs/wp-includes/wp-db.php on line 1295

Blog

Mar 24th

Top Dog – Playing to Teen’s Success (Po Bronson)

Posted by with No Comments

by Kathleen Bisaccia

On the evening of November 18 parents were treated to a talk by Po Bronson, co-author (with Ashley Merryman) of “Top Dog: the Science of Winning and Losing.”  Bronson and Merryman’s approach to the subject is as journalists instead of scientists, and therefore their findings are able to take into consideration an element of reasoning and personal feelings.  The conclusions drawn by Bronson and Merryman were interesting and a bit controversial.

Bronson initially posed the questions, Why does one child rise to an occasion while another crumbles?  And how can creativity be nurtured in today’s competitive environment?  Bronson related some statistics about today’s teens – although 60% have jobs, 70% volunteer weekly, and 40% are politically active – seemingly indicia of success – today’s teens are also stressed and burned out from the pressure.  Conversely, there remain a sector of teens who are apathetic and unprepared for the competitiveness of today’s teen life.

To the teen, being a teenager feels like they are waiting for their real life to start.  Many of the risks/decisions they make are based on this feeling.

Bronson’s work for his book followed a group of students from the ages 12 to 27.  There were a few common themes that Bronson and Merriman wanted to test: (1) the results of Peer pressure, and (2) communication with/fighting with parents.  First, with regard to peer pressure, the conclusion was that it isn’t such a bad thing, as the teens who showed they were susceptible to peer pressure were shown to have great relationships when they were in their twenties, because they were highly attuned to the thoughts and feelings of others.  Notably, those who were not susceptible to peer pressure actually had a much lower GPA, perhaps due to the fact that they did not care what anyone else thought, even with regard to doing well in school.  The key to being successful while still caring about peers was the ability to succumb to peer pressures while still standing up for your own values and beliefs.

With regard to relationships with parents, although our kids really love us, they do not hesitate to lie to us.  70% of parents interviewed by Bronson said that their teens could tell them anything; only 4% actually do. The teens don’t necessarily want to lie, but they want to “keep upsetting facts away from” us. In fact, in the words of one the interviewed teens “it is important for some things to be none of your business.”   Bronson says that in order for a kid to have a successful relationship with their parent while still lying (as they do) will take some work. Parents should try not to have an overabundance of rules, and have only certain areas that they insist on not being lied to (e.g. where there teen is going to be).  If this approach results in some arguing, then that’s actually good, says Bronson.  In fact, arguing is a sign of respect; a sign of disrespect is lying.  So if a teen is arguing about a particular rule, that means that they are respecting and regarding your authority to make that rule.  Sometimes, suggests Bronson, giving in a little to your teens and letting them be “a little right” is critical to your relationship.

Bronson’s next point bolstered the idea of letting teens be right or “win” and argument sometimes, because physically the teen brain is stimulated by excitement and uncertainty.  They crave risky behavior.  It is a parent’s responsibility to put ‘good risk’ opportunities into their lives – like jobs, auditions, sports and summer programs.

In fact, teaching teens that stress is OK is important for them.  Stress before tests has been proven to improve test scores, and having that little extra energy before an event is a positive outcome of stress.  Bronson suggests you don’t constantly tell kids that stress is bad.  Finally, Bronson found that teens have to be able to risk losing.  If teens have been told during their lives that losing isn’t so bad, they will be encouraged to take risks and as adults may benefit from this risk-taking – and end up On Top.

 

Tagged with: , , , , , , , , , , , ,

  1. HowardQuaby
    April 16, 2019 at 6:19 am

    Cheers. Awesome information!
    https://nicktambone.com/
    best online pharmacy
    canadian pharmacy
    canada pharmacies prescription drugs
    online pharmacies canada


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  2. HowardQuaby
    April 16, 2019 at 11:39 am

    Wonderful data. Appreciate it!
    http://canadianonlinepharmacynnm.com/
    online pharmacy canadian pharmacies online canadian drugstore online online pharmacies of canada
    pharmacies in canada
    ed meds online
    drugs without prescription
    canada meds
    drug costs
    internet pharmacy


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  3. HowardQuaby
    April 16, 2019 at 3:33 pm

    Thanks a lot! Quite a lot of material.
    http://canadianpharmacyntx.com/
    medical information online canada pharmacy online drug stores near me online pharmacies canada
    canadian drug store
    canada meds
    canadian pharmacies without prescriptions
    overseas pharmacies
    online pharmacies no prescription
    canadian pharmacy online


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  4. HowardQuaby
    April 16, 2019 at 7:33 pm

    Thanks! A good amount of data.
    http://talahicc.com/
    cialis online canada drugs trusted overseas pharmacies london drugs canada
    prescription drug cost
    discount pharmaceuticals
    canada pharmacy
    visit poster’s website
    canadian drugstore online
    canadian online pharmacy


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  5. Quentinovase
    April 16, 2019 at 8:38 pm

    Truly all kinds of helpful data.
    https://nicktambone.com/
    canadian pharmacy meds canadian cialis northwestpharmacy online pharmacies of canada
    canadian drug store
    pharmacy prices
    approved canadian pharmacies online
    canada pharmacy online orders
    prescription cost
    internet pharmacy


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  6. Quentinovase
    April 16, 2019 at 9:38 pm

    Valuable advice. Cheers.
    http://canadianpharmacysilo.com/
    discount drugs online pharmacy north west pharmacy canada canadian prescription drugs northwest pharmacy
    canada drugs pharmacy
    canadianpharmacy
    drugs without prescription
    prescription drug assistance
    pharmacy price comparison
    canadian pharmacy online


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  7. Quentinovase
    April 16, 2019 at 9:44 pm

    You explained that exceptionally well.
    http://canadianpharmacymim.com/
    best online international pharmacies canada drug online discount pharmacy canadian pharmacy online
    compare rx prices
    canadian pharmacy no prescription needed
    cheap canadian drugs
    drugs without prescription
    northwest pharmacy
    canadian pharmacies top best


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  8. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 12:29 am

    Nicely put, Many thanks.
    http://talahicc.com/
    online pharmacies canada canadian pharmacy no prescription pharmacy aarp approved canadian online pharmacies
    get prescription online
    legitimate online pharmacies
    canada pharmacy online
    trust pharmacy canada
    online drugs
    onlinecanadianpharmacy.com


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  9. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 12:46 am

    Amazing content, Thank you!
    http://canadianonlinepharmacynnm.com/
    canadian prescription drugs canadian pharmacy online best non prescription online pharmacies canadian pharcharmy
    mexican online pharmacies
    canadian drug store
    drug prices comparison
    canadian prescription drugstore
    canadian pharmacies that ship to us
    canadian rx pharmacy online


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  10. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 6:53 am

    Nicely put, Kudos!
    http://www.canadianpharmacymsn.com/
    price prescription drugs canada drugs highest rated canadian pharmacies canada online pharmacies
    safeway pharmacy
    drugs for sale
    no prescription pharmacies
    pain meds online without doctor prescription
    online pharmacy reviews
    canada meds


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  11. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 8:30 am

    You actually reported this very well.
    http://canadianpharmaciesnnm.com/
    canadapharmacyonline.com canadian pharmacy online mail order pharmacies canada drug
    mail order pharmacy
    canadian pharmacy king
    canadian pharmacies shipping to usa
    canadian pharmacy no prescription
    canadapharmacy com
    online canadian pharmacies


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  12. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 10:50 am

    Whoa quite a lot of terrific knowledge!
    http://canadianonlinepharmacynnm.com/
    discount prescription drugs online online pharmacies canada canadian prescriptions canadian online pharmacy
    online pharmacies no prescription
    medication costs
    canada online pharmacies
    buy prescription drugs without doctor
    drugstore online
    canadian pharmacies


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  13. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 12:52 pm

    You explained that terrifically.
    http://canadianonlinepharmacynnm.com/
    buying prescription drugs canada trust pharmacy canada prescription cost london drugs canada
    canadapharmacy
    canadian pharmacies that ship to us
    cheap prescription drugs online
    canadian prescription
    canadianpharmacy
    canadian pharmacy 365


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  14. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 12:57 pm

    This is nicely expressed. !
    http://canadianpharmacysilo.com/
    best online international pharmacies canada pharmacy online best price prescription drugs canada pharmaceuticals online
    pharmacy near me
    canadian pharmacies top best
    prescription drugs online without
    medication costs
    cheap drugs online
    web medical information


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  15. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 5:19 pm

    Really loads of awesome material!
    http://canadianonlinepharmacynnm.com/
    visit poster’s website canada drug canada online pharmacy canada pharmacy
    best canadian online pharmacy
    online pharmacies
    canadianpharmacy
    drugs from canada
    overseas pharmacies
    pharmacy online mexico


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  16. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 6:06 pm

    Awesome write ups. Thanks!
    http://talahicc.com/
    buy prescription drugs canada canadian pharmacy online drugs from canada canadian pharmacy
    canadian discount pharmacy
    prescription drugs prices
    canada drugs online
    northwest pharmacy canada
    drugs online
    pharmacy price compare


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  17. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 6:32 pm

    You said it very well!
    http://canadianpharmaciescubarx.com/
    approved canadian pharmacies online canadian cialis canadian pharmacy viagra canadian pharmacies online
    pharmacy prescription
    cheap drugs online
    online canadian pharcharmy
    no prescription online pharmacy
    get prescription online
    cialis online


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply
  18. Quentinovase
    April 17, 2019 at 7:39 pm

    Whoa all kinds of wonderful data!
    http://canadianpharmacyntx.com/
    canadapharmacy com canadian drugs best online canadian pharcharmy canada online pharmacies
    canadian pharmacies that are legit
    canadian rx
    pharmacy tech
    canadapharmacy
    mail order pharmacy
    top rated canadian pharmacies online


    Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Reply

Leave a reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *